It's been a long time

Hello anyone still reading. I haven't posted in a really long time. I have just been living my normal-ish life being super busy with work, events & friends. My Love and support of Crossdressers and the Transgender community has not waned. I also am a supporter of the Drag community. I am a listening ear to people who need it. I give advise if wanted and I try to go on outings as much as possible. Though, I have to admit, I was supposed to hang with a friend all summer and put it off a lot of times. Not because of them but because of Me. I lost a job I had for about 5 years the beginning of this summer and just got so depressed. I didn't want to go out and spend money doing things I just wasn't in the mood to do. I wasn't in the mood to do 'Girl' things. I didn't want to get my nails done. I didn't want to look at cute things. I just wanted to be home in my comfy clothes not putting makeup on me or others. They were left feeling like they did something wrong, i had to assure them that it was me. I've been having depression over the past 3 or 4 years. Human brains are weird.

Let me see. Updates:

Supporting Philly Aids Thrift in Philadelphia! My good friend James has fundraisers going on for PAT which is a thrift store that distributes their proceeds to local organizations in the fight against HIV/AIDS. There was a movie viewing last night that I co-hosted. In October there will be a Boo-lesque performance type fundraiser. Hopefully we will raise a lot of money for them.
http://phillyaidsthrift.com/
http://www.phillyboolesque.club/

Planning on going to another Raven Event that is coming up in October. Get to see my Girls and hang out a bit, Dance around, have some fun! You can join the MATC on Facebook...or look at it and find a chapter local to you. This is for like the Philly/NJ community Good deal of NYC and some Connecticut ladies here as well. Its for Transwomen & Crossdressers
MATC

Our dear Paula, who you may have read about in previous blog posts, is Engaged to a Lovely young lady and they have a beautiful baby together! The fiance IS accepting of Paula as well!!! Congratulations Paula!!! You won the Jackpot!

Hmmm...What else? I have performed at like LGBT events (singing). My kid came out as Agender & Pansexual. Both not a huge deal to me, Obviously.

I guess that's all for Updates...Email me suggestions as to what to talk about. StraightCrossdressers@gmail.com

I Love you all!


     

David Bowie

David Bowie is an Icon that has spanned generations of people. If you've read my very First Post from 2011 you will have read that David Bowie was one of the people to whom I attributed my love of crossdressers. He has always been an entity present in my life, though not physically, he made an impact. How he dressed, how he lived, how he loved & how he cared for and advocated for others... He was truly remarkable.

I woke up this morning about 6:30AM EST and checked Facebook only to find out that the Legend was gone. Cancer took him before the morning. I, and many others I know, had no idea he was even sick. We had no time to prepare for our loss. He knew we were losing him so he left us a parting gift. On his 69th birthday, just a few days ago, he released a new album. He also released a video for one of the songs.

I just really can't get my words together very eloquently today and may revisit this post to expand on my feelings. Below is a post from one of my closest friends about her feelings on Bowie.

Roll With It RPG's musings on David Bowie

Keep Living my friends. I don't know who originally posted the image below or where it came from but I leave you with this:

And a couple other images of David Bowie:

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2016!!!

So This is 2016! It started off pretty Ok. I think I have to dumb down my resolution this year to posting at least once a month because I've been failing at more than that as of late.

I Still hope to do some video posts as well. Here's Hoping i can make this year better than last!

Happy 4 Year Anniversary!

This Blog has been going for 4 Years!!! I can't believe it. I know there have been many gaps in my posting but, Its still here. I'm still here. You are still here. We have a thriving Facebook Group. Thank You ALL for reading and for all of your support and stories. You are ALL wonderful people and I'm glad to be a part of your lives and I'm super happy that I have you in my life! Keep sending me your thoughts and stories and I will try my best to post and do what I can to support you!


I Love you All!

Pirate Pebbs

Interview with a Straight Crossdresser Dating Update!

Hello Friends! We have a dating update from my 3rd Straight Crossdresser Interview! (Linked Here)
So here it is, without further ado, Take it away Sienna!

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 February of this year I met a woman. At first we talked as friends and because I thought we would only be friends I told her upfront about my crossdressing. She thought it was cool and asked the usual questions, "are you gay, bi, or straight?", "why do you do it?", "can I see a picture?". After the usual interrogation the topic rarely came up and we got to know each other. I asked her out on a date and we hit it off really well. A couple weeks later we were dating.

Everything was going smoothly until I sent her a pic of me dressed up one day. She asked me to not to show her that side of me because she didn't think she could handle seeing me that way. Initially, I was devastated. I have no problem with a woman not wanting to date me because I'm a crossdresser but it would hurt me if I was upfront about my crossdressing and still broken up with because of it.

We decided that we would give it time after that. We both had struggles when it came to dealing with the situation. She thought that maybe one day I would come out as Trans and my feelings for her would go away. My girlfriend is pansexual so it's safe to say she would date me if that ever were the case, however she was worried about my feelings changing.

I, on the other hand, was worried that she wasn't attracted to me anymore. I was worried she had seen me as a girl and was now ashamed of me. I contemplated not dressing up anymore and purging so that she could have a normal man for a boyfriend. For a short while I felt like how it was when I started crossdressing and was hiding it.

After telling her about it she told me how she felt. I reassured her that my feelings would never change even if I wanted to change my gender. She told me she would never want me to change just for her. She wanted to love all sides of me and that meant me as a girl too. She had made it clear that she wanted to see me dressed up.

I was still nervous for a bit afterwards. I thought her reaction to me dressed up would either make or break our relationship. Eventually that day came and I dressed up for her. Since it was the first time I opted against makeup and just wore a wig and dress. I was extremely shy because of what was at stake. To my surprise, she loved it. The first time she couldn't keep her hands off of me.

Months later and things are even better. I dress up occasionally. She even does my makeup from time. We have cosplay ideas set up for us where we both dress as female characters. She calls me princess so long as she gets to be the queen. My crossdressing initially threatened our relationship but in the end it strengthened it. Now we're stronger than ever.

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Thank You Sienna for sharing this part of your life with us!

I LOVE that Sienna shared with us a fresh faced picture without makeup. You are beautiful as you are. You don't need to hide your face. If you like how you look without makeup, you can wear Your face! If you want to add a bit of color you can do so as well. Either way you will always pass as...Human! That's what we all are. No matter what changes we make to our bodies, genetic testing will say that we are undoubtedly human no matter what.

If you would like to be featured on the blog with your story you can contact me at StraightCrossdressers@gmail.com

Until next time, always remember...

Pirate Pebbs Loves You!

I can't do the Philly Pride Parade this Year...

I stretched myself too thin that weekend and didn't have the funds to get a float...I will plan better for next year. I will do a fundraiser so we can have a float and invite as many people as I can to be part of the experience. Once I know next year's date I'll start planning.

What are your Ideas for the float's theme? I'd generally do a Pirate theme...Just cause...Pirate Pebbs and all...

We will have at least one sponsor...at least 2 by name. One being Global Grafx. Another being Dr. Thunder Karaoke since I am a host for Dr Thunder Karaoke.

Sorry I haven't posted mych. I';ve been posting more on the Facebook group where its more little bursts of posts.

I do have some friends who want to get their stories out there.


This past weekend I spent a couple days with my T-Girl friends outside of the Raven Parties! That was exciting for me. I'm like never personally invited to events...I know its not meant to slight me at all but I'd always wished to be invited. I'll spill more about that later.

I gotta get back to work...since...well...I'm at one of my jobs. Just wanted to update you on whats (not) happening with me.

Oh Also I saw One of my Fav Drag Queens this week! Pic Below!


Pirate Pebbs Loves You!

Misty Maven & Pirate Pebbs

Shall We Walk in the Philly Pride Parade 2015?

I apologize for my absence. I have been (as i've said a million times before and shall probably continue to say for a while) working a whole lot lately and haven't been able to post often. Ok my posts are quite random and I have 0 time management skills.

That said, I have been on the Straight Crossdressers and Friends Facebook group where during some recent discussions I came up with an idea.
We should participate in the Philly Pride Parade!
I feel that Straight Crossdressers are under represented especially in the LGBT world. Since Crossdressing falls into the very grey areas of the 'T' and Straight Crossdressers are rarely if ever represented in the 'T'...we should do something about it. I would like to have Straight Crossdressers represented in the Philly Pride Parade!

I first have to make sure it isn't too late to register (the website didn't say it was too late but I have to call to be sure). Meanwhile I will make a banner to be walked with or put onto a vehicle. So far the only people committed to it is myself and another GG friend... 2 GGs are not the greatest representation of Straight crossdressers...I mean we can dress as guys while we walk But I would LOVE it to have some Actual Straight Crossdressers participate as well (MtF & FtM).

Would YOU be willing to participate? Will you help US change how crossdressers are represented? Currently when people see people that they assume are crossdressers they automatically assume that they are interested in the same sex that they are assigned at birth (men interested in men, women interested in women). A Large majority of Crossdressers are interested in the opposite sex and the world at large doesn't recognize that they even exist. That includes many gay people who don't realize that straight crossdressers exist.

The parade is on Sunday June 14th, 2015.

WILL YOU WALK WITH ME?

Please let me know if you think you'd be available and would like to participate. You can email me at: StraightCrossdressers@gmail.com
More info can be found on the website: www.phillygaypride.org

See me at the LGBT Expo 2015 in NYC

Hello everyone. I know its been a while. I'll be singing and talking about this blog as well as the Straight Crossdressers and Friends Facebook Group. The awesome Appolonia Cruz will be hosting the at the LGBT Expo at the Video Lounge on Saturday February 28th & Sunday March 1st. My friend Frankie will be performing on Saturday and I will be singing on Sunday. After my song i'll sit down with Appolonia and we'll talk about what i'm hoping to accomplish which is acceptance of crossdressers and for people to be non-judgmental about how people, particularly crossdressers. People always assume that because a man wears womens clothing that 1: they want to BE women and 2: they want to date men (same thing for women who wear mens wear). Where both may be true for some people it is not true for everyone. Just because a man wears a dress we should assume nothing but that he likes the particular clothing he's wearing. We shouldn't assume his gender identity OR his sexual preference. We shouldn't assume that of anyone period.

I wonder if I can get anyone to record it for me this year...maybe i'll set up my camera for video again this year.

I've been sick...all year. Been to the doctor and they say its my allergies...Seriously??? My allergies make me feel like i have a really bad cold....which sux. I've been having throat pain and have not been singing for weeks. I think my performance is gonna be as bad as last year...the horror... Whatever. I'll make the best of it.

I do love you all and wish I had more time to post. I post a bit more on the facebook page. Straight Crossdressers and Friends Group (this is a closed group, you have to respond back to the message from one of the 3 admins to be added)
Here is the thing about the group. EVERYONE is screened. I explain the rules a bit and you have to agree to them, mostly to weed out spammers and people who are looking to date same sex as themselves crossdressers because most of the group is straight and hate being hit on by people of the same gender.
We still have our facebook page as well https://www.facebook.com/straightcrossdressers

I love you all and I will be posting more soon.

Pirate Pebbs

Happy New Year 2015!

Hi Everyone, Happy New Year!!! Sorry I haven't been posting much lately. I hope for that to change.

My Resolution is to Post more and to start doing video posts.

Do you have any resolutions? Post below or join our Facebook group and post there.



I'm going for right now, You'll be seeing me soon!

Pebbs

Perfectly Flawed - A Guest Post By Samantha Prescott

I have been extremely busy lately and haven't posted much lately. I apologize for that. I do have Awesome friends who are willing to help me out. This post is by Samantha and she's going to let you in on a bit of her life. I hope you enjoy and post your feelings about it here or you can chat about it in our Facebook Group or Page.

Take it away Sami.
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Before I go back to the beginning and recant any recollection of when this all stared for me I will start with who I am at this exact moment.

    My name is Samantha "Sami" Prescott and I am a soon to be 50 year old happily married heterosexual crossdresser. I revealed the innermost me to my wife very early on in our relationship. We were becoming very involved quickly and I knew I could not wait another second. I was born into something that I didn't have a choice or say in and my own life experience that who I am was never going to change or just go away, I knew that she needed to have a choice to stay or walk away. I needed to be free of the secrecy and shame that my life has been accustomed, and I owed it to both of us to be honest and upfront to insure that would be a foundation on which our relationship would be built. As a result, one of the hardest decisions I ever carried out in my life, and one of the biggest risks I decided to take, I am very blessed and fortunate to have a supportive and accepting wife who has encouraged me to not be ashamed of who I am. Without understanding she stayed and she has been the one and only reason that I have found acceptance and peace within myself.  Without her support I might not have ventured out from the safety and confines of my home.

    I have been getting out and about for a little over 2 years now and have been working on my head to toe transformation and presentation for about 9 years, but 'I' have been a lifetime in the making. I am non-transitioning and very part time. I am closeted to everyone except my wife and I am not looking to make any drastic changes in my life nor seeking to come out and be full time. I do have a desire to get out a bit more often and know that I want to be able to be active in the community, provide help and support for other like myself, and also make a positive impact on those I interact with along the way.  Going a bit further in my self realization I also consider myself to be transgendered.  I know there is more to all of this than the clothes, I have no conflict with my gender, my identity, or my sexual preference. I do realize there is a duality that exists in me, a feminine aura, and a certain comfort and wholeness that comes with my drive and desire to nurture and outwardly express this part of me that I have hidden and denied for the largest part of my life.

    Going all the way back I could make this very short and say the day I was born I fell right into a pair of panties and took off running. That could very well be but my earliest recollection was when I was probably around 4 or 5 years old. I was in one of my mother's satin nightgowns. It extended way past my feet so there was no chance of running to hide when she was half way up the stairs and quickly approaching. As she is calling I lifted the lid of the hamper and tumbled in to hide. The lid opened right after but the hiding lasted for the majority of years afterward. It was my attraction to silky and satiny clothing and everything that was hidden under what a woman wore underneath the top layer that everyone would see excited me. The feeling against my skin was then and is still now incredible. I don't know why back then at such a young age I was so conflicted that something that felt so good to me was something that made me feel as if I was doing something so wrong. It was also those thoughts way back then that had me keeping all those things to myself.

    Within the next 2 or 3 years I was already into my mother's stockings, bras, panties, girdle's, pretty much everything and anything I could get my hands on. I was already hands on in self exploration before most boys or girls even had a clue as to what the real difference was between the sexes were. I can remember watching "Bewitched" through much different eyes than most children did, unless of course they were like me!

    Elizabeth Montgomery, who played Samantha and who is the inspiration in my name, was just a witch who was a mom and a homemaker on the television show. She was so much more than that to me. She was the essence of woman-ity and femininity, she was everything that I adored about a woman and the thought of what she was wearing under her dress had me thinking way past my mother's lingerie drawers.

    Then there was Jeannie, Ginger, and Mary Anne, the sitcom starlets who I wanted to emulate and larger than life when it came to how I was inspired by them. They were a vision of desire that I saw back then and very instrumental on how I present today.

    Somewhere in that time frame my mother asked me what I wanted to be for Halloween, before that point I was never asked, she just slapped a costume on me and off I went. Well, given a choice the obvious answer was "A Girl" so she borrowed a bunch of things from one of her girlfriends daughter's. Little did I know that I would be in my glory and I certainly did not show it, there I was wearing a cute blue dress with a strawberry pattern on it, a pair of white tights, and a pair black patent Buster Brown Mary Jane flats. I was all anxious to run out the door to go Trick or Treating and my mother stopped me and said, "You're not ready yet".  She pulled a wig down on my head and smeared some rouge blush on my cheeks and said, "Now the girl is ready".  I can remember one  of the ladies that answered the door saying, "Aren't you just the prettiest little girl".  Halloween wasn't the only time I slipped back into that dress. I can say that memory still brings a smile to my face today because I was somewhat embarrassed by it at that time.

    Two of the biggest disappointments after that was the day my mother returned the clothes to her girlfriend and years later when the day came that my feet would no longer fit into my mother's heels. So it wasn't long after that I had to muster up the courage to go and buy my first pair of heels. I also bought a bra, panties, and a matching garter-belt set and stockings which all became part of my first and only purge when I was married for the 1st time at 23 years old.

    I thought that was going to be the end to my secret to never surface again. Not so, it was not long before I was back to dabbling and I decided to come clean shortly before the birth of my 1st child. It did not go over well and was something that was not accepted or supported. Over more than 10 years and the birth of several more children I lived my life secretly, hiding my dressing. I was made to feel as if I were a freak and deviant by my former wife. My dressing was always something that was a sore point and always used by her as a weapon to make me feel ashamed of myself or to belittle me.

    Once that marriage ended and time passed I knew that I could never live that way again and also knew that if another relationship was to develop that I could not keep this part of me a secret. I have always lived my life and existed somewhere between blessed and cursed.

Back to where this story all started. Considering that I and my current wife never asked for any of these things to be a part of our lives, the only thing that I could ever hope for has become a reality for me. I have a wife who loves me for who I am as a person and someone I don't have to feel ashamed to be myself around. Cursed is no longer a part of the equation and as of now I am the closest to blessed that I could have ever hoped for, and a realization that although nothing in life will ever be perfect. I can accept and live with the fact that I am and will always be perfectly flawed.

Sorry I haven't updated in a while.

I'm still around. I've been soooooo very busy lately. I feel bad that I haven't posted much at all. Not even on FB much but i'm there. If you haven't already Please join our Facebook group. Straight Crossdressers & Friends Facebook Group. I do screen the group to make sure there are no bots are spammers. I will send you a message, so make sure you use a profile that is able to receive messages otherwise you won't be added to the group. I'll ask you a question from my personal profile & You will need to respond back. If you respond back in a spambot-ish way...well...i'll keep talking a bit with you and as long as I know you're human and you agree to the rules ( if posting pics they must be appropriate for kids to see cause a lot of my group members have kids, myself included and we don't want our kids looking over our shoulders & seeing porn on our screens...i mean...there are other groups where that is acceptable but Not in our group).

I Love you all & think you are ALL wonderful people!

Here is a Pic of Me, Pirate Pebbs, from my recent trip to Otakon! (Anime convention where I often dress as Me, Pirate Pebbs)

Love Always,
Pirate Pebbs

Raven 20...um..a couple months ago...

Hi everyone...Looks like I'm still having difficulty posting every week. Anyway,  I went to Raven #20 last weekend and it was über fun (as usual) I got to see some old friends and meet some new ones. I'll link to pics when I can. Started off Friday night. Went to the Bar at the Ramada Inn where they had the meet & greet. The Meet & Greet started out as a small welcome to the 'girls' who came in from out of town so that they could meet some new friends and won't feel out of place for the main party on Saturday night. Fast forward to now and its day 1 of a 3 day event. Day 1: Meet & Greet where from 8-ish PM till 11-ish PM Meeting and greeting happens. I often say Hi the everyone i know & meet people i don't know. I am quite talkative and wind up talking to some people or a person for a very long time before meeting more people and talking for even more time. I usually have a friend or 2 drive up with me on Friday nights but this time I was solo. I kinda liked it because I didn't have to leave early unless I wanted to etc. It was nice. Only thing was I didn't have a designated driver so I had my 2 drinks around 9PM and no more.

then Dancing at 'The Raven' (actual name of the place where the Raven Parties are held) I'm pretty sure Friday nights are 70's or 80's music nights. They have video's that play for most of the songs. Some of the video's I've never seen before.

Okay so this post was from a couple months ago but never finished. Posting it now because.... well its been a few months and if I don't post it now it'll probably never get posted and I need to get it out so I can move on to the next one. Raven 21 was this past weekend so...I'll write a bit about that one next.

Major Fail on my part

I had planned on posting once a week....I failed miserably this year. Thing is I have a new-ish Job and I didn't realize i'd be so drained after working. Not just that, my 10 yo daughter needs a lot of my time & my Sweetie is also time consuming. Tuesday next week is the 2 yr anniversary of my first date with my crossdressing sweetie. He is elated that i've been with him so long and hopes we'll stay together...well...forever.

Anywho I will leave you with this:

(Video From Eddie Izzard LIVE!)

Yes...Eddie Izzard!!! That's just the clip w/me. I'll post the full video as well a lil later.


I love you ALL and have not forgotten about you. I have friended a few of you on facebook and many of you have liked our Facebook page and more & more of you are joining our Facebook group! Keep joining, make posts, make friends, and also remember....all ages page, no NSFW pics PLEASE. There are PLENTY of other groups that are all about the NSFW type pics. Thanks!

Pirate Pebbs

Convo with a CD friend #1 of Many

I was talking to one of my Crossdressing friends the other day. We were talking about clothes, dressing, relationships and such. At some point she says,

*”You are very out there, why can't I be someone like that, loyal and honest and don't care [about what others think about you]?’

My Response: It takes a bit of...well...getting over yourself. I got over myself. Embarrassing things are gonna happen, people are gonna not like some things you do. People are gonna try to put you down, question is...how do you feel about you? Do you like what you do? Do you like who you are?

People come and go, you will be with you all of your life. You should take care of the inner you. The inner you wants to be happy. The inner you likes to dress a certain way and act a certain way. The inner you may want to look different every day. The inner you may wanna dress the same way for a week then totally change up. If you're with someone who can't deal with you being you...well...I don't see how making your inner self sad to make someone else happy will keep you happy for too long.

That was spewed out in the middle of the night when my friend was sleep. Later she responded:

“Wow Pebbles, You just broke it down, But you are right.  I see what you are saying, WE are some [of the] good men out there. Just because we want to dress like a woman doesn't mean we want to be with one or be gay or bi or anything like that.”

Me: Nearly all if not all of the CD dudes I chat with are really nice people & really 'good' guys. If a GG wants to be treated 'right' I highly recommend a CD. If the GG can get over themselves maybe they can find happiness in the arms of someone who just Might look better than them occasionally, lol. A lot of people don't get over themselves till they are way old. You don't see (some)old ladies not doing stuff or saying stuff just cause it might be embarrassing... life is too short to dwell on dumb stuff!

Later, We were discussing relationships again and the GG my CD friend is dating.

Me: I wanna say something which may come off pretty... 'guy-ish' and I'm not talkin’ nice guy... Here it goes. If you think she is your One, you should find a way to tell her you like to dress. If she's not...well...are you ready to drop her in a minute if you do find your 'one' who is fine with who you are?

I totally understand companionship. I didn't like being alone [when I was single].

Their response: ‘Well she’s somewhat one, but what is the one?... I'm 35 years old I don't know what to believe in that aspect. I would think the one would have come by now.

Me: So many of my CD/TG friends are with people who don't like a very real part of them...the emotional turmoil they go through because of it is really heartbreaking!

I had a friend show his girlfriend a picture of him en femme to come out to her. She thought he was really cute. They continued to date for a while, eventually they broke up, but not because of his dressing.

I wish I could talk to all the 'girlfriends that don't know' and ease them into the thought of it. CD guys (in my opinion) are just sooooo much easier to deal with than 'regular' guys. You Know what their major quirk is, that secret is gone! If you can deal with that, everything else will be a breeze to get through! And if you tell her & it doesn't work [or she thinks she can’t deal with it], well, you didn't invest TOO much time in a relationship that wouldn't work out in the end anyway

Why is a CD guys so much easier?

Me: More in touch with their feminine side...for example. [Some] Ladies sometimes (or all the times) wanna get their hair/nails etc done, right?

Yes they do.

Me: My ex hubby didn't understand that and to him it was kinda wasted money...his mom had to talk to him about that.

Oh yes we wouldn't mind getting ours done too.

Me: Exactly! No fight no fuss. That's something you can do together! Spa day, hello!

Later we went on to talk about how women may not like to participate in their significant other’s crossdressing. It’s like any other…we’ll say ‘hobby’ for this example. If I dislike something that someone likes to do, that doesn't mean I won't support the person who wants to do it. I may or may not join in on what they like to do. I may or may not be there every time they’re doing whatever it is they’re doing but I’m supportive. If someone I’m with likes table top gaming but I’m not into it. I wouldn’t put them down for it. I might try to play to see if maybe I could get to like it but if I just don’t like to do it myself…it’s just something I don’t like to do. They can continue with it. I might even make snacks to serve to the gamers or hang out and watch/listen to what’s going on.

I hope other people can be like that. If your significant other likes to dress in a way contrary to their gender type, would you be able to support them even if you’re not in to it? Can you help them with their hair and make-up so they can hang with their friends who also like to dress? Will you go to an event with them even though it’s not an event you want to go to all the time just to support them? It’s my hope that sometime soon this will no longer be considered a taboo…maybe even be considered a some-what normal occurrence.

That’s all I have to say for now. I hope you all have a GREAT DAY!!!

I will again be making an appearance at The Original GLBT Expo in NYC this weekend! I will be interviewed in the Video Lounge on Sunday. I’ll Have pictures and my experience from there to share with you soon!

Love,

Pirate Pebbs

*Bold Print (for the most part) is my CD friend’s words.

CD= Crossdresser, GG= Genetic Girl=Cis-Gendered Female=Female who was born female and identifies as female.

Our Frock Magazine 2014 Cover Girl Contest Entrants

Three Straight Crossdressers I know are competing in this contest. I would LOVE it if one of our lovelies would win! You can vote for all three of them by clicking their links and clicking vote.

One of them was interviewed last year in our 'Interview with a Straight Crossdresser'
Here is Gia!

Click Here to Vote for Gia

Next is the winner of our 500 Likes on Facebook Poster Contest.
Here's Tabbitha!

Click Here to Vote for Tabbitha

Last but not least is a more recent Facebook friend and aspiring Model.
Here's Paige!

Click Here to Vote for Paige

Good Luck to You All!!! I wish you ALL could win but if not all of you at least one of you!

~Pirate Pebbs

Support Matters - Guest Post by Chardonnay Merlot

It was a Saturday night out on the dance floor. Me with a big smile on my face. You can never get too much of the feeling of a fun night out, surrounded by friends, all while working the perfect outfit.

The added bonus? For me, it was at the place where my journey truly began.

On that night two years before,-- I, Chardonnay Merlot, stepped out into the world for the first time.

I was alone, nervous, scared. I wasn't sure I was gonna go through with it.

My Heartbeat keeping time with the click-clack of heels on a parking lot.

Earlier that day, I was in a dressing room at a small shop maybe an hour away.

Looking in a mirror at me.

It was overload seeing myself in a way I'd always wanted to but never felt safe in doing.

And then I was told, "You really should consider going out tonight. There's nothing gained by hiding who you are."

I ended up going to a club that night. Nervous to the point of nausea.

"Don't be nervous honey, be out and be proud."

I met others like me that night.

A couple of weeks later, I was late to my first meeting with my support group and the group leader gave me the 'Don Rickles' treatment for being quite late, and then embraced me... as did the whole community.

The common denominator: Someone reached out.

I'm grateful for so many who have, mainly in a lot of small ways, from besties who call and Facebook me just to ask "how ya doin?" to those who have shared their experience and wisdom with me from the beginning.

Those first steps were tentative and nervous. Looking back I wonder how ever got the heart to take them.

It was because somebody took one second to tell me, "Live it. Learn it. Own it."

Because somebody took one second to show me how to use a foundation brush more efficiently.

Because someone spent an evening sharing their journey, their story, and was patient with me.

Because a group of people invited me in with open arms.

Because a group of people saw a shy scared person trying to find answers and they took me in.

Thanks to that, I've found a new peace, a new strength and have expanded my circle because of it. The journey feels a little less arduous and a lot less lonely, because from the beginning so many, in big ways and small, sent the most important message: "You are not alone."

 Support Matters

-Chardonnay Merlot

Links & filler

I have had an uninspired week. Nothing really to talk about from my life with CDs but I DID read an article that was AWESOME couple. A transvestite & his Wife. A sweet beautiful loving couple in california. They had a write-up in LA Weekly! Below is a link to the article.

Brian and Debbie

I'm pretty sure I read this on another blog about crossdressing. Here are a few links to other pages i frequent (some are crossdresser themed, some are art themed). I'm sure none of the CD blog owners even know this page exists...i'll reach out...eventually...maybe...

http://www.femulate.org/

http://theartoftess.blogspot.com/

http://www.hisblackdress.com/

http://cutelouise.blogspot.com/

http://www.naturalcuresnotmedicine.com/

http://artofcute.blogspot.com/

http://keeponcouponing.blogspot.com/

I have at least one interview on the back burner that hopefully I will get to this week. Also a friend & reader of this blog has written an article which will be posted soon as well.

Love Always,

Pirate Pebbs

P.S. I'll be at the GLBT Expo in NYC Next month in the Video Lounge with Appolonia Cruz! Check me out there if you'll be there as well :)

Happy Valentines Day 2014

Happy (belated) Valentines Day!

I had a really special Valentines Day. Its been about a year since I've been dating my sweetie exclusively. I told him I wanted him to write me a 'love letter'...just cause I wanted one... Then, he told me he wanted one in return... total backfire on me cause it hadn't crossed my mind that he'd want one back. Not that he didn't deserve one back, just cause when I mentioned it it was something that had come to mind seconds before I said it. Anyway, I'd been thinking of what to put for days & telling my bestfriend what I planned to put in the letter. Come letter writin' time...I just had randomness. Then I had to do a bit of driving, took the best friend with me to finalize the letter on my cellphone. We got everything hashed out beautifully! ...Then...while I was cookin' Bacon Roses for my sweetie, my greasy hands was making the phone glitchy. I attempted to save the letter... long story short, it got erased. *sigh* I did tell him in advance of his arrival what happened & he was fine with it. I did wind up telling him what i'd written way less eloquently than it had been written. Any who, he did write me a letter and it is pictured below. I share this with you as a beacon of hope. Have a read. I have more to say below the letter.

This letter was written by my sweetie, a 33 year old crossdresser. A person like many of you who has gone through countless years of loneliness. Not just because he didn't have a girlfriend. When he did have girlfriends they didn't know about his crossdressing. They didn't know all of him. I hope in reading this, whether you are a crossdresser who is currently alone or a GG just learning that straight guys can crossdress and still be just as much of a man as a guy who doesn't, you can see how life changing one person can be to another. No matter who you are, what gender you do or don't assign yourself, that there is someone out there for you. Sometime the wait can feel like forever. Sometimes you have to wait longer than you think is reasonable. You can meet the person your heart yearns for. They may have to be chased. They may not know or even think they are the one for you. You may have to spend a year convincing them to give you a chance. When they finally do, show them how much they mean to you and how special you think they are and continue to do so in case they forget. Some people need to feel needed in order to feel happy in their relationships, remind them why you need them.

...Ok, I feel like i'm rambling. I should probably stop & get some sleep. **(I will edit this and fix all the capitalization issues etc once i've gotten enough sleep)  

I wish you all Love!

If no one else, 

Pirate Pebbs Loves You!

**All edited and fixed :)

Messages from Readers #1

Since I started posting about my blog in various profiles that i've used for dating over the years, I gotten a few letters from readers…ok…more like comments from readers and I want to share some of them with you. I’m just gonna abbreviate their names or their screen names so as not to expose them w/o permission (if your screen name happens to be one of the abbreviations, it is simply unintentional). I will be posting more in upcoming posts. If you see your comment here and would like me to put your screen name or real name just email me at StraightCrossdressers@Gmail.com

These were left as messages in my OKCupid profile.

Enjoy!

Pirate Pebbs

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4/18/2012- Hey, just a friendly message! As a straight guy who dresses up, I can appreciate your blog! Thanks honey!

-WB

5/17/2012- Hello, I read you blog and it's awesome! Immediate add to my reader. It's good to know there are well adjusted women out there who can appreciate people with my certain disposition. It makes me want to branch out and make a real attempt to find someone, but you are right. Nine times out of ten it doesn't go well and now I have resorted to telling new interests up front before the first date but usually it turns out there is no first date! lol. Anyway this is turning into a ramble. Thank you again. 

-ER311

7/6/2012- Wow...you are in inspiration! :) 
I am a straight man, and have been crossdressing for quite some time. Actually, I have not worn male underwear for about 5 years. Even at work, underneath my slacks, you will always find a pretty pair of panties. :) 
I just thought about saying hello, and to thank you for being so open minded. I wish more people were like you. 
Now excuse me while I go do my laundry, full of panties, stockings, and bras. :)

-CB

2/7/2013- I am a male crossdresser. Thank you for your kind words, and your blog. ITs very big of you to put a voice out there, and realize, most men are straight that do it. Thanks!

-SCT

9/165/2013- You sound like an amazing person!! It's gets exacerbating with women who automatically assume I'm gay or want a sex reassignment simply because I enjoy wearing makeup, dress and pantyhose! 
So good to know women like you exist!

-RO123

10/29/2013- Just wanted to say I really dig the blog.

-BSX85

The post that should have been...and will be

Ok, so my plan was to do a post of letters from the readers. I have gotten quite a lot of praise from people who read this blog and support what I'm trying to do. Within the next few days I will get that up and posted but I have been so busy with work, family life & being at a planning meeting for biggest (and best :P...in my opinion) anime convention on the East Coast. Also hosting Karaoke...Yeah, i've been kinda busy. So I am posting this now and hopefully I can get my post done soon.

More to come soon,

Laterz,

Pirate Pebbs