Shall We Walk in the Philly Pride Parade 2015?

I apologize for my absence. I have been (as i've said a million times before and shall probably continue to say for a while) working a whole lot lately and haven't been able to post often. Ok my posts are quite random and I have 0 time management skills.

That said, I have been on the Straight Crossdressers and Friends Facebook group where during some recent discussions I came up with an idea.
We should participate in the Philly Pride Parade!
I feel that Straight Crossdressers are under represented especially in the LGBT world. Since Crossdressing falls into the very grey areas of the 'T' and Straight Crossdressers are rarely if ever represented in the 'T'...we should do something about it. I would like to have Straight Crossdressers represented in the Philly Pride Parade!

I first have to make sure it isn't too late to register (the website didn't say it was too late but I have to call to be sure). Meanwhile I will make a banner to be walked with or put onto a vehicle. So far the only people committed to it is myself and another GG friend... 2 GGs are not the greatest representation of Straight crossdressers...I mean we can dress as guys while we walk But I would LOVE it to have some Actual Straight Crossdressers participate as well (MtF & FtM).

Would YOU be willing to participate? Will you help US change how crossdressers are represented? Currently when people see people that they assume are crossdressers they automatically assume that they are interested in the same sex that they are assigned at birth (men interested in men, women interested in women). A Large majority of Crossdressers are interested in the opposite sex and the world at large doesn't recognize that they even exist. That includes many gay people who don't realize that straight crossdressers exist.

The parade is on Sunday June 14th, 2015.

WILL YOU WALK WITH ME?

Please let me know if you think you'd be available and would like to participate. You can email me at: StraightCrossdressers@gmail.com
More info can be found on the website: www.phillygaypride.org

See me at the LGBT Expo 2015 in NYC

Hello everyone. I know its been a while. I'll be singing and talking about this blog as well as the Straight Crossdressers and Friends Facebook Group. The awesome Appolonia Cruz will be hosting the at the LGBT Expo at the Video Lounge on Saturday February 28th & Sunday March 1st. My friend Frankie will be performing on Saturday and I will be singing on Sunday. After my song i'll sit down with Appolonia and we'll talk about what i'm hoping to accomplish which is acceptance of crossdressers and for people to be non-judgmental about how people, particularly crossdressers. People always assume that because a man wears womens clothing that 1: they want to BE women and 2: they want to date men (same thing for women who wear mens wear). Where both may be true for some people it is not true for everyone. Just because a man wears a dress we should assume nothing but that he likes the particular clothing he's wearing. We shouldn't assume his gender identity OR his sexual preference. We shouldn't assume that of anyone period.

I wonder if I can get anyone to record it for me this year...maybe i'll set up my camera for video again this year.

I've been sick...all year. Been to the doctor and they say its my allergies...Seriously??? My allergies make me feel like i have a really bad cold....which sux. I've been having throat pain and have not been singing for weeks. I think my performance is gonna be as bad as last year...the horror... Whatever. I'll make the best of it.

I do love you all and wish I had more time to post. I post a bit more on the facebook page. Straight Crossdressers and Friends Group (this is a closed group, you have to respond back to the message from one of the 3 admins to be added)
Here is the thing about the group. EVERYONE is screened. I explain the rules a bit and you have to agree to them, mostly to weed out spammers and people who are looking to date same sex as themselves crossdressers because most of the group is straight and hate being hit on by people of the same gender.
We still have our facebook page as well https://www.facebook.com/straightcrossdressers

I love you all and I will be posting more soon.

Pirate Pebbs

Perfectly Flawed - A Guest Post By Samantha Prescott

I have been extremely busy lately and haven't posted much lately. I apologize for that. I do have Awesome friends who are willing to help me out. This post is by Samantha and she's going to let you in on a bit of her life. I hope you enjoy and post your feelings about it here or you can chat about it in our Facebook Group or Page.

Take it away Sami.
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Before I go back to the beginning and recant any recollection of when this all stared for me I will start with who I am at this exact moment.

    My name is Samantha "Sami" Prescott and I am a soon to be 50 year old happily married heterosexual crossdresser. I revealed the innermost me to my wife very early on in our relationship. We were becoming very involved quickly and I knew I could not wait another second. I was born into something that I didn't have a choice or say in and my own life experience that who I am was never going to change or just go away, I knew that she needed to have a choice to stay or walk away. I needed to be free of the secrecy and shame that my life has been accustomed, and I owed it to both of us to be honest and upfront to insure that would be a foundation on which our relationship would be built. As a result, one of the hardest decisions I ever carried out in my life, and one of the biggest risks I decided to take, I am very blessed and fortunate to have a supportive and accepting wife who has encouraged me to not be ashamed of who I am. Without understanding she stayed and she has been the one and only reason that I have found acceptance and peace within myself.  Without her support I might not have ventured out from the safety and confines of my home.

    I have been getting out and about for a little over 2 years now and have been working on my head to toe transformation and presentation for about 9 years, but 'I' have been a lifetime in the making. I am non-transitioning and very part time. I am closeted to everyone except my wife and I am not looking to make any drastic changes in my life nor seeking to come out and be full time. I do have a desire to get out a bit more often and know that I want to be able to be active in the community, provide help and support for other like myself, and also make a positive impact on those I interact with along the way.  Going a bit further in my self realization I also consider myself to be transgendered.  I know there is more to all of this than the clothes, I have no conflict with my gender, my identity, or my sexual preference. I do realize there is a duality that exists in me, a feminine aura, and a certain comfort and wholeness that comes with my drive and desire to nurture and outwardly express this part of me that I have hidden and denied for the largest part of my life.

    Going all the way back I could make this very short and say the day I was born I fell right into a pair of panties and took off running. That could very well be but my earliest recollection was when I was probably around 4 or 5 years old. I was in one of my mother's satin nightgowns. It extended way past my feet so there was no chance of running to hide when she was half way up the stairs and quickly approaching. As she is calling I lifted the lid of the hamper and tumbled in to hide. The lid opened right after but the hiding lasted for the majority of years afterward. It was my attraction to silky and satiny clothing and everything that was hidden under what a woman wore underneath the top layer that everyone would see excited me. The feeling against my skin was then and is still now incredible. I don't know why back then at such a young age I was so conflicted that something that felt so good to me was something that made me feel as if I was doing something so wrong. It was also those thoughts way back then that had me keeping all those things to myself.

    Within the next 2 or 3 years I was already into my mother's stockings, bras, panties, girdle's, pretty much everything and anything I could get my hands on. I was already hands on in self exploration before most boys or girls even had a clue as to what the real difference was between the sexes were. I can remember watching "Bewitched" through much different eyes than most children did, unless of course they were like me!

    Elizabeth Montgomery, who played Samantha and who is the inspiration in my name, was just a witch who was a mom and a homemaker on the television show. She was so much more than that to me. She was the essence of woman-ity and femininity, she was everything that I adored about a woman and the thought of what she was wearing under her dress had me thinking way past my mother's lingerie drawers.

    Then there was Jeannie, Ginger, and Mary Anne, the sitcom starlets who I wanted to emulate and larger than life when it came to how I was inspired by them. They were a vision of desire that I saw back then and very instrumental on how I present today.

    Somewhere in that time frame my mother asked me what I wanted to be for Halloween, before that point I was never asked, she just slapped a costume on me and off I went. Well, given a choice the obvious answer was "A Girl" so she borrowed a bunch of things from one of her girlfriends daughter's. Little did I know that I would be in my glory and I certainly did not show it, there I was wearing a cute blue dress with a strawberry pattern on it, a pair of white tights, and a pair black patent Buster Brown Mary Jane flats. I was all anxious to run out the door to go Trick or Treating and my mother stopped me and said, "You're not ready yet".  She pulled a wig down on my head and smeared some rouge blush on my cheeks and said, "Now the girl is ready".  I can remember one  of the ladies that answered the door saying, "Aren't you just the prettiest little girl".  Halloween wasn't the only time I slipped back into that dress. I can say that memory still brings a smile to my face today because I was somewhat embarrassed by it at that time.

    Two of the biggest disappointments after that was the day my mother returned the clothes to her girlfriend and years later when the day came that my feet would no longer fit into my mother's heels. So it wasn't long after that I had to muster up the courage to go and buy my first pair of heels. I also bought a bra, panties, and a matching garter-belt set and stockings which all became part of my first and only purge when I was married for the 1st time at 23 years old.

    I thought that was going to be the end to my secret to never surface again. Not so, it was not long before I was back to dabbling and I decided to come clean shortly before the birth of my 1st child. It did not go over well and was something that was not accepted or supported. Over more than 10 years and the birth of several more children I lived my life secretly, hiding my dressing. I was made to feel as if I were a freak and deviant by my former wife. My dressing was always something that was a sore point and always used by her as a weapon to make me feel ashamed of myself or to belittle me.

    Once that marriage ended and time passed I knew that I could never live that way again and also knew that if another relationship was to develop that I could not keep this part of me a secret. I have always lived my life and existed somewhere between blessed and cursed.

Back to where this story all started. Considering that I and my current wife never asked for any of these things to be a part of our lives, the only thing that I could ever hope for has become a reality for me. I have a wife who loves me for who I am as a person and someone I don't have to feel ashamed to be myself around. Cursed is no longer a part of the equation and as of now I am the closest to blessed that I could have ever hoped for, and a realization that although nothing in life will ever be perfect. I can accept and live with the fact that I am and will always be perfectly flawed.

Convo with a CD friend #1 of Many

I was talking to one of my Crossdressing friends the other day. We were talking about clothes, dressing, relationships and such. At some point she says,

*”You are very out there, why can't I be someone like that, loyal and honest and don't care [about what others think about you]?’

My Response: It takes a bit of...well...getting over yourself. I got over myself. Embarrassing things are gonna happen, people are gonna not like some things you do. People are gonna try to put you down, question is...how do you feel about you? Do you like what you do? Do you like who you are?

People come and go, you will be with you all of your life. You should take care of the inner you. The inner you wants to be happy. The inner you likes to dress a certain way and act a certain way. The inner you may want to look different every day. The inner you may wanna dress the same way for a week then totally change up. If you're with someone who can't deal with you being you...well...I don't see how making your inner self sad to make someone else happy will keep you happy for too long.

That was spewed out in the middle of the night when my friend was sleep. Later she responded:

“Wow Pebbles, You just broke it down, But you are right.  I see what you are saying, WE are some [of the] good men out there. Just because we want to dress like a woman doesn't mean we want to be with one or be gay or bi or anything like that.”

Me: Nearly all if not all of the CD dudes I chat with are really nice people & really 'good' guys. If a GG wants to be treated 'right' I highly recommend a CD. If the GG can get over themselves maybe they can find happiness in the arms of someone who just Might look better than them occasionally, lol. A lot of people don't get over themselves till they are way old. You don't see (some)old ladies not doing stuff or saying stuff just cause it might be embarrassing... life is too short to dwell on dumb stuff!

Later, We were discussing relationships again and the GG my CD friend is dating.

Me: I wanna say something which may come off pretty... 'guy-ish' and I'm not talkin’ nice guy... Here it goes. If you think she is your One, you should find a way to tell her you like to dress. If she's not...well...are you ready to drop her in a minute if you do find your 'one' who is fine with who you are?

I totally understand companionship. I didn't like being alone [when I was single].

Their response: ‘Well she’s somewhat one, but what is the one?... I'm 35 years old I don't know what to believe in that aspect. I would think the one would have come by now.

Me: So many of my CD/TG friends are with people who don't like a very real part of them...the emotional turmoil they go through because of it is really heartbreaking!

I had a friend show his girlfriend a picture of him en femme to come out to her. She thought he was really cute. They continued to date for a while, eventually they broke up, but not because of his dressing.

I wish I could talk to all the 'girlfriends that don't know' and ease them into the thought of it. CD guys (in my opinion) are just sooooo much easier to deal with than 'regular' guys. You Know what their major quirk is, that secret is gone! If you can deal with that, everything else will be a breeze to get through! And if you tell her & it doesn't work [or she thinks she can’t deal with it], well, you didn't invest TOO much time in a relationship that wouldn't work out in the end anyway

Why is a CD guys so much easier?

Me: More in touch with their feminine side...for example. [Some] Ladies sometimes (or all the times) wanna get their hair/nails etc done, right?

Yes they do.

Me: My ex hubby didn't understand that and to him it was kinda wasted money...his mom had to talk to him about that.

Oh yes we wouldn't mind getting ours done too.

Me: Exactly! No fight no fuss. That's something you can do together! Spa day, hello!

Later we went on to talk about how women may not like to participate in their significant other’s crossdressing. It’s like any other…we’ll say ‘hobby’ for this example. If I dislike something that someone likes to do, that doesn't mean I won't support the person who wants to do it. I may or may not join in on what they like to do. I may or may not be there every time they’re doing whatever it is they’re doing but I’m supportive. If someone I’m with likes table top gaming but I’m not into it. I wouldn’t put them down for it. I might try to play to see if maybe I could get to like it but if I just don’t like to do it myself…it’s just something I don’t like to do. They can continue with it. I might even make snacks to serve to the gamers or hang out and watch/listen to what’s going on.

I hope other people can be like that. If your significant other likes to dress in a way contrary to their gender type, would you be able to support them even if you’re not in to it? Can you help them with their hair and make-up so they can hang with their friends who also like to dress? Will you go to an event with them even though it’s not an event you want to go to all the time just to support them? It’s my hope that sometime soon this will no longer be considered a taboo…maybe even be considered a some-what normal occurrence.

That’s all I have to say for now. I hope you all have a GREAT DAY!!!

I will again be making an appearance at The Original GLBT Expo in NYC this weekend! I will be interviewed in the Video Lounge on Sunday. I’ll Have pictures and my experience from there to share with you soon!

Love,

Pirate Pebbs

*Bold Print (for the most part) is my CD friend’s words.

CD= Crossdresser, GG= Genetic Girl=Cis-Gendered Female=Female who was born female and identifies as female.

Happy Valentines Day 2014

Happy (belated) Valentines Day!

I had a really special Valentines Day. Its been about a year since I've been dating my sweetie exclusively. I told him I wanted him to write me a 'love letter'...just cause I wanted one... Then, he told me he wanted one in return... total backfire on me cause it hadn't crossed my mind that he'd want one back. Not that he didn't deserve one back, just cause when I mentioned it it was something that had come to mind seconds before I said it. Anyway, I'd been thinking of what to put for days & telling my bestfriend what I planned to put in the letter. Come letter writin' time...I just had randomness. Then I had to do a bit of driving, took the best friend with me to finalize the letter on my cellphone. We got everything hashed out beautifully! ...Then...while I was cookin' Bacon Roses for my sweetie, my greasy hands was making the phone glitchy. I attempted to save the letter... long story short, it got erased. *sigh* I did tell him in advance of his arrival what happened & he was fine with it. I did wind up telling him what i'd written way less eloquently than it had been written. Any who, he did write me a letter and it is pictured below. I share this with you as a beacon of hope. Have a read. I have more to say below the letter.

This letter was written by my sweetie, a 33 year old crossdresser. A person like many of you who has gone through countless years of loneliness. Not just because he didn't have a girlfriend. When he did have girlfriends they didn't know about his crossdressing. They didn't know all of him. I hope in reading this, whether you are a crossdresser who is currently alone or a GG just learning that straight guys can crossdress and still be just as much of a man as a guy who doesn't, you can see how life changing one person can be to another. No matter who you are, what gender you do or don't assign yourself, that there is someone out there for you. Sometime the wait can feel like forever. Sometimes you have to wait longer than you think is reasonable. You can meet the person your heart yearns for. They may have to be chased. They may not know or even think they are the one for you. You may have to spend a year convincing them to give you a chance. When they finally do, show them how much they mean to you and how special you think they are and continue to do so in case they forget. Some people need to feel needed in order to feel happy in their relationships, remind them why you need them.

...Ok, I feel like i'm rambling. I should probably stop & get some sleep. **(I will edit this and fix all the capitalization issues etc once i've gotten enough sleep)  

I wish you all Love!

If no one else, 

Pirate Pebbs Loves You!

**All edited and fixed :)

Second Straight Crossdresser Segment on HuffPost Live

Interview with a Straight Crossdresser #4

This week we have an interview that I started 6 months ago and through a series of events going on in my life, I.... didn't finish. Now, thanks to their reminder, It has been finished.

This week we interview 18 year old Victoria from Whittier, California.
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*Victoria in the white satin top.

Pebbles: About when did you become interested in or start crossdressing?

Victoria: I started around the age of 10 with my moms bras and slips, but then stopped once I got into middle school. After that I didn’t really start doing it again until 2011, my junior year of high school and that's when I started buying my own clothes and creating 'Victoria'.

Pebbles: Where did you go to buy your first items of clothing?

Victoria: eBay, the first item I ever bought was a white satin top. In fact it’s the one I'm wearing in my profile pic*

Pebbles: Very cool!

Pebbles: Have you ever been 'caught' crossdressing? If so, by who? What was the outcome?

Victoria: I have been caught with the items (clothes, wigs and such) in my room by my mom and she's confused by it but she never really confronts me about it. But caught fully crossdressed? No not yet thank goodness

Pebbles: I hear ya!

Pebbles: Does any of your family know you 'dress'?

Victoria: Yes, my cousins Janelle, Marissa and Jessie, whom I'm close with know about it and are very supportive. Janelle and I are especially close and we often exchange christmas gifts. I just came out to her a few months before and she got me an e.l.f makeup kit!

Pebbles: AWESOME!!! I love the family involvement!

Pebbles: Have you ever gone out crossdressed in public?

Victoria: Yes, yes many times. Since going to college I have gone out in public on campus, to the nearby business and around my neighborhood, with some special memories on a few occasions.

Pebbles: Care to share a memory?

Victoria: Oh, there's so many. So I'll share a small sample a few. Going out crossed for the first time outside of campus to the real world; Going to 7/11 and 'Stater Bros' all due to my professor. Halloween: Going to a salon, getting my wig done and going to class startling my classmates who couldn't believe it was me. 

Going to get a pedicure with a friend of mine and being treated like two princesses. 

And sneaking an outfit into a family christmas party and showing my cousins ‘Victoria’. So many precious memories in only 4 months of going out dressed in public!

Pebbles: WOW!!! Those are some Great moments! Thank you for sharing.  

Pebbles: Did anyone teach you how to apply makeup? Do you have someone do it for you? Are you learning/ have you learned through youtube vids?

Victoria: Nope, self taught. But for me its easy since I really just do eye shadow, foundation and lipstick when go out. I really don't do elaborate makeup like other crossdressers. Only when my cousin Janelle gave me the e.l.f makeup did someone else do my makeup for me.

Pebbles: That's cool. You don't need to go all out make-up crazy. In fact, for the most part, less is more. 

Pebbles:Do/Have you worn fake nails or nail polish?

Victoria: I haven't worn fake nails yet, but I have worn nail polish. I get my nails painted everytime I go for a pedicure.

Pebbles: Awesome!

Pebbles: Are you 'Passing' or is it your goal to be passing? If so would you go out in public crossdressed regularly?

Victoria: I always want to pass because it makes me feel good and empowered. I honestly think I could do a little more to pass better, but I think I pass at a good enough level. Although even if I didn't I would still go out because I love going on adventures.

Pebbles: That’s cool.

Pebbles: Do you tuck & Shave when you crossdress?

Victoria: I shave my face and neck every time before I go out. So much so I actually got an electric razor for christmas. I do tuck but very lazily and not super convincingly.

Pebbles: What makes you want to crossdress? How does it make you feel?

Victoria: Feeling pretty and alive makes me want to crossdress. I love the feeling of lipstick and gloss on my lips, how beautiful I look when I put my wig on and inspecting myself in the mirror. I feel elated and happy when I crossdress, just the feeling of satin and sandals give me a feeling of calm and contentment that nothing else can make me feel.

Pebbles: Ideally what percentage of your time would you prefer to be 'dressed'? Like...if it was a month. 50% dressed, more/less?

Victoria: Haha, that's a good question. I mean I LOVE dressing up and I would be Victoria 100% of the time if I could. But at the same time I like being a guy and not having to act prim and proper. I kind of compare to an experience had at my high school's football games. I would love looking at the cheerleaders because they were so attractive and beautiful, but at the same time I would long to be one of them cheering on the sideline in uniform and makeup waving my pom-poms around in white shoes. So even though Victoria would love to be out all the time, she can get nudged aside pretty quickly.

Pebbles: lol! So, more like 50/50-ish or more like, 'when the mood sets me'?

Victoria: 50/50 I suppose, lol. A long analogy to get to a simple answer, haha

Pebbles: lol, its a good one though

Pebbles: Are you currently dating anyone? If so, does she know?

Victoria: No,  I'm currently single.

Pebbles: Have you had one since you started crossdressing?

Victoria: Thank you and no I haven't dated yet since becoming Victoria.

Pebbles: Well, I'm sure that will change.

Pebbles: Is there anything else you would like the public to know about you? Or do you have an interesting story to share?

Pebbles: By the way, looking at your pictures, You are ADORABLE!!!

Victoria: Thank you so much. Yes, I would just like to thank all of the people who had helped me over the past few months. My English/Speech professor Ms. Maya Staylor actually help me go out in public for the first time (outside campus) and was always welcoming when I came visit as Victoria, I owe her a lot for encouraging me to become Victoria and I enjoy every moment of it. I would also like to thank Lihn, the stylist who does my wigs, she is so welcoming and sweet everytime I go and makes me look so beautiful, I encourage any crossdresser in the Walnut area (in California) to visit her at Newen's Beauty Salon (909)910-623 Tues, Thurs. And finally I'd like to my friends and family for being so encouraging of Victoria and letting me gush over my adventures as her.

Pebbles: AWESOME!!! I'm so glad you have such a GREAT support system! Thank You for interviewing with me!

So ladies, Victoria is also single and looking. If you’re in the Whittier Area of California and are interested in conversing with Victoria, you can send an email to StraightCrossdressers@gmail.com with your name age and reply email (a picture wouldn’t hurt as well, I mean, you see Victoria right here) and I will pass the info to Victoria.

Until next time, Have fun & stay safe!

Victoria's First time out!

Love Always,
Pirate Pebbs

New Year 2014 Resolutions

Happy 2014! My resolution is that I will post every week! I did this resolution the year before last and it worked quite well for me. I didn't do it last year and I was sans many posts. This year I resolve to do much better than last. I have been working on 2 posts that are yet unfinished.

Within the next few weeks (date yet undetermined) Huff Post Live will do another spot on Straight Crossdressers. There is a call for couples. Are you in love with a crossdresser? You can be a Genetic Female that dresses as Male dating or married to a Genetic Male or you can be a Genetic Male who dresses Female who is dating or married to a Genetic Female. If you are interested in participating Please email me at: PiratePebbs@gmail.com
You do Not have to reveal your face. You can have your face blurred or even just have a photograph up while they interview you. I will be participating as well. They plan on doing an on going series about straight crossdressers so even if you miss the deadline (to be added when determined) you could still participate in an upcoming segment.
We really need your support if we are going to help change the perceptions of crossdressers in society.

What are your resolutions for the new year? Share with us here or share with us on facebook.
https://www.facebook.com/straightcrossdressers
https://www.facebook.com/groups/148637208611170/

 Love, Pirate Pebbs

Straight Crossdressers on HuffPost Live

SCD on HuffPost Live Today & Upcoming posts

A couple of posts are in the works. 'Pebbs & Paula go to Glamour Boutique', 'Raven 17' & 'Straight Crossdressers on Huff Post Live!'. Today, Monday November 11th, at 4:40pm HuffPost Live is doing a piece on Straight Crossdressers and they reached out to me. They were hoping I could help with the segment. I posted about it on the Facebook page and the Facebook Group. A few were interested but lacked what was needed to interview, a webcam. There is at least one other girl from the facebook group who is hoping to participate. It'll be Great if she actually can! Its a shame they didn't contact me a week or so ago so that I could have tried to get more people involved but I did what I could I do. I'll be there and the segment will probably be rewatchable after it airs. I'll be back with those up coming posts as soon as I can!
Laterz!
Pirate Pebbs