Happy Valentines Day 2014

Happy (belated) Valentines Day!

I had a really special Valentines Day. Its been about a year since I've been dating my sweetie exclusively. I told him I wanted him to write me a 'love letter'...just cause I wanted one... Then, he told me he wanted one in return... total backfire on me cause it hadn't crossed my mind that he'd want one back. Not that he didn't deserve one back, just cause when I mentioned it it was something that had come to mind seconds before I said it. Anyway, I'd been thinking of what to put for days & telling my bestfriend what I planned to put in the letter. Come letter writin' time...I just had randomness. Then I had to do a bit of driving, took the best friend with me to finalize the letter on my cellphone. We got everything hashed out beautifully! ...Then...while I was cookin' Bacon Roses for my sweetie, my greasy hands was making the phone glitchy. I attempted to save the letter... long story short, it got erased. *sigh* I did tell him in advance of his arrival what happened & he was fine with it. I did wind up telling him what i'd written way less eloquently than it had been written. Any who, he did write me a letter and it is pictured below. I share this with you as a beacon of hope. Have a read. I have more to say below the letter.

This letter was written by my sweetie, a 33 year old crossdresser. A person like many of you who has gone through countless years of loneliness. Not just because he didn't have a girlfriend. When he did have girlfriends they didn't know about his crossdressing. They didn't know all of him. I hope in reading this, whether you are a crossdresser who is currently alone or a GG just learning that straight guys can crossdress and still be just as much of a man as a guy who doesn't, you can see how life changing one person can be to another. No matter who you are, what gender you do or don't assign yourself, that there is someone out there for you. Sometime the wait can feel like forever. Sometimes you have to wait longer than you think is reasonable. You can meet the person your heart yearns for. They may have to be chased. They may not know or even think they are the one for you. You may have to spend a year convincing them to give you a chance. When they finally do, show them how much they mean to you and how special you think they are and continue to do so in case they forget. Some people need to feel needed in order to feel happy in their relationships, remind them why you need them.

...Ok, I feel like i'm rambling. I should probably stop & get some sleep. **(I will edit this and fix all the capitalization issues etc once i've gotten enough sleep)  

I wish you all Love!

If no one else, 

Pirate Pebbs Loves You!

**All edited and fixed :)

Messages from Readers #1

Since I started posting about my blog in various profiles that i've used for dating over the years, I gotten a few letters from readers…ok…more like comments from readers and I want to share some of them with you. I’m just gonna abbreviate their names or their screen names so as not to expose them w/o permission (if your screen name happens to be one of the abbreviations, it is simply unintentional). I will be posting more in upcoming posts. If you see your comment here and would like me to put your screen name or real name just email me at StraightCrossdressers@Gmail.com

These were left as messages in my OKCupid profile.

Enjoy!

Pirate Pebbs

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4/18/2012- Hey, just a friendly message! As a straight guy who dresses up, I can appreciate your blog! Thanks honey!

-WB

5/17/2012- Hello, I read you blog and it's awesome! Immediate add to my reader. It's good to know there are well adjusted women out there who can appreciate people with my certain disposition. It makes me want to branch out and make a real attempt to find someone, but you are right. Nine times out of ten it doesn't go well and now I have resorted to telling new interests up front before the first date but usually it turns out there is no first date! lol. Anyway this is turning into a ramble. Thank you again. 

-ER311

7/6/2012- Wow...you are in inspiration! :) 
I am a straight man, and have been crossdressing for quite some time. Actually, I have not worn male underwear for about 5 years. Even at work, underneath my slacks, you will always find a pretty pair of panties. :) 
I just thought about saying hello, and to thank you for being so open minded. I wish more people were like you. 
Now excuse me while I go do my laundry, full of panties, stockings, and bras. :)

-CB

2/7/2013- I am a male crossdresser. Thank you for your kind words, and your blog. ITs very big of you to put a voice out there, and realize, most men are straight that do it. Thanks!

-SCT

9/165/2013- You sound like an amazing person!! It's gets exacerbating with women who automatically assume I'm gay or want a sex reassignment simply because I enjoy wearing makeup, dress and pantyhose! 
So good to know women like you exist!

-RO123

10/29/2013- Just wanted to say I really dig the blog.

-BSX85

I'm a Slacker, I'm Sorry :(

Ok, I have been slacking a bit...I apologize. I had a post typed up on the 10th and didn't get around to posting it. And now, because of a series of unfortunate events, I will not have my laptop back till at least Wednesday.

Anywho, I kinda hate the first CD dating site I started using. I am ready to delete my account. It is way too money hungry. If people like the site and can afford extras they'll pay for them. If they're broke, like me, and can't afford to, well, we broke people should be allowed to try to date people too, right? Wrong, according to them, I still have an account an a couple other free CD dating sites. The one...er ones i do NOT recommend are: Crossdressing.com and DateAcrossdresser.com. These 2 sites are linked.

CDmeet.com & MeetLocalCrossdressers.com are gonna be the ones I go to most often now. Lets see, what else... Um...If you find me on facebook...I don't really add people I don't already know as friends...Sorry. I do have a FB page for this page and a FB fan page just...I feel bad telling individual people that I'm not gonna add them. There is just too much personal stuff on there. That being said, here are the links to the Public FB Pages I have:

My Pirate Pebbs Group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/105806352789580/
My Pirate Pebbs Fan Page:
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Pirate-Pebbs/182304651861086
My Karaoke Page, Which is not Owned by me, but I am an Admin:
https://www.facebook.com/thunderkaraoke
(if you're in philly and wanna sing, check it out)
And Last, but not least, The Straight Crossdressers Page:
https://www.facebook.com/straightcrossdressers

Oh, I'm also on a Meet Up Group, T-Girls United, mostly Philadelphia area meet up for CDs and friends:
http://www.meetup.com/patgirls/


Stop By, say Hi, Like the pages, Join the groups. See Ya next time!

CDs Dates and Dating Websites

So I got a message from a CD who mentioned that he lets girls know that he CDs before he meets them offline and that because of that there usually is no first date. While I feel it is important to let the person you want to date know in advance so there is not a misunderstanding down the road...it may not be the best idea to let them know before you meet in person. Below is some advice I gave him.


*Small piece of advice.* You don't have to say anything about CD-ing before the first date. I mean, you at least wanna see if there is any mutual attraction offline, right? I mean if you don't like her offline, what's the use of telling her, eh? She may have friends on here [*here being OkCupid] and 'warn them' about you [*i know i've warned one or two of my friends about creepers]. Maybe after the 2nd or 3rd date let her know. So she sees your personality and knows that it's 'worth it' to know both sides of you. Some girls are more willing to accept, or at least try it out if they realize they really like you. Otherwise...well...they may just think you're a pervy freak. I'm just telling you this cause, I realllllllly want you to succeed in finding a GF. I...am not the typical straight female... Unfortunatly not all girl know they're in to dudes who are...so in touch with their feminine side. I hope more of them will read my blog and give guys like you a chance. I've been spreading the news as best I can but...I can only reach but so many within my contacts. Another suggestion. If you do what I say above and you do like them enough to let them know about the other side of you, send them a link to my site. Maybe the one about the advantages of dating a CD. It might help.


On dating sites that are not targeted towards crossdressers... most crossdressers are incognito. They generally don't out themselves (i say generally because i have seen a few on the sites that are fine with posting their CD pics and talking about their CD nature on there) Besides, most CDs that I know are closeted anyway. The choices for hot chicks are better on those sites as well. From what I hear, GGs on the crossdresser dating sites are sparse & among the few on there, very few that are 'Hot'. (the getting must be pretty low if i'm considered among the hot! lol, I kid) Besides, i'm sure most girls, even if they are in to cross dressers have no idea about the crossdresser dating sites. Even if they did, most are paid sites masquerading as free sites.  (you have to cleverly hide your contact info and hope that the reader figures out how to contact you...you know...and stop sending you messages that you can't read. They should just give me a free full membership!!! *ahem*) 


There are many girls that Love drag queens with shows like RuPaul's Drag Race & Drag U. I think many of them see the contestants/professors on those shows and might be receptive to a CD if properly presented. I just did a search for RuPaul on a dating site and found that a lot of straight females watch the show...might be a good icebreaker to feel out if they may be receptive...or curious. I only found crossdresser dating sites about a year ago. I think I will link the sites I am on here and if anyone here finds me feel free to find my messenger info on there and drop me a line and say Hi!


These sites are apparently owned by the same company and if you signed up with one, you can sign into both...weird.


http://www.crossdressing.com/
http://www.dateacrossdresser.com/


These 2 sites I think are associated with each other... not 100% sure, but you can actually message people on the site below...i think they have to have a paid membership for you to chat with them.
http://www.meetlocalcrossdressers.com/


http://www.cdmeet.com/

There is always Meetup.com. The Philadelphia group I am in is below. It's not really a dating site, but some people kinda use it that way. :)

http://www.meetup.com/patgirls/

I think that is all the info and advise i have to offer for the moment. I may add to it as i see fit.

Until next time....(i really need to think up an ending catch phrase, lol)

Pebbles

The advantages of dating a crossdresser

Not every girl is going to be in to crossdressers. Hopefully that will change once they realize the advantages of crossdressers over 'regular' dudes. For example, with a CD your clothing size, you've doubled your wardrobe cause you can share clothes :D. You will have a partner who actually Likes to go clothing shopping with you and will not lie to you about what looks good on you, just to rush you out of the store, he'll want it to look good so he can wear it as well. He'll understand the need (and expense) to get hair and nails done...the list goes on. If other females understood the advantages there may be more willing to date cd's. They may not be 'in to' it, but...acceptance is a good start cause...well...just like anything else, not everyone will be in to what you're in to, but they just might be 'ok' with you doing it. Like how some dudes like watching sports games and some women aren't in to it but let their men have their sunday football. There are women who weren't in to sports who have grown to like or even love the sport that was introduced to them by their man. The same is possible with your cd. Never know till you try.