Thursday, August 28, 2014

Sorry I haven't updated in a while.

I'm still around. I've been soooooo very busy lately. I feel bad that I haven't posted much at all. Not even on FB much but i'm there. If you haven't already Please join our Facebook group. Straight Crossdressers & Friends Facebook Group. I do screen the group to make sure there are no bots are spammers. I will send you a message, so make sure you use a profile that is able to receive messages otherwise you won't be added to the group. I'll ask you a question from my personal profile & You will need to respond back. If you respond back in a spambot-ish way...well...i'll keep talking a bit with you and as long as I know you're human and you agree to the rules ( if posting pics they must be appropriate for kids to see cause a lot of my group members have kids, myself included and we don't want our kids looking over our shoulders & seeing porn on our screens...i mean...there are other groups where that is acceptable but Not in our group).

I Love you all & think you are ALL wonderful people!

Here is a Pic of Me, Pirate Pebbs, from my recent trip to Otakon! (Anime convention where I often dress as Me, Pirate Pebbs)

Love Always,
Pirate Pebbs

Friday, May 23, 2014

Major Fail on my part

I had planned on posting once a week....I failed miserably this year. Thing is I have a new-ish Job and I didn't realize i'd be so drained after working. Not just that, my 10 yo daughter needs a lot of my time & my Sweetie is also time consuming. Tuesday next week is the 2 yr anniversary of my first date with my crossdressing sweetie. He is elated that i've been with him so long and hopes we'll stay together...well...forever.

Anywho I will leave you with this:

Yes...Eddie Izzard!!! That's just the clip w/me. I'll post the full video as well a lil later.

I love you ALL and have not forgotten about you. I have friended a few of you on facebook and many of you have liked our Facebook page and more & more of you are joining our Facebook group! Keep joining, make posts, make friends, and also remember....all ages page, no NSFW pics PLEASE. There are PLENTY of other groups that are all about the NSFW type pics. Thanks!

Pirate Pebbs

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Convo with a CD friend #1 of Many

I was talking to one of my Crossdressing friends the other day. We were talking about clothes, dressing, relationships and such. At some point she says,
*”You are very out there, why can't I be someone like that, loyal and honest and don't care [about what others think about you]?’

My Response: It takes a bit of...well...getting over yourself. I got over myself. Embarrassing things are gonna happen, people are gonna not like some things you do. People are gonna try to put you down, question do you feel about you? Do you like what you do? Do you like who you are?
People come and go, you will be with you all of your life. You should take care of the inner you. The inner you wants to be happy. The inner you likes to dress a certain way and act a certain way. The inner you may want to look different every day. The inner you may wanna dress the same way for a week then totally change up. If you're with someone who can't deal with you being you...well...I don't see how making your inner self sad to make someone else happy will keep you happy for too long.

That was spewed out in the middle of the night when my friend was sleep. Later she responded:

“Wow Pebbles, You just broke it down, But you are right.  I see what you are saying, WE are some [of the] good men out there. Just because we want to dress like a woman doesn't mean we want to be with one or be gay or bi or anything like that.”

Me: Nearly all if not all of the CD dudes I chat with are really nice people & really 'good' guys. If a GG wants to be treated 'right' I highly recommend a CD. If the GG can get over themselves maybe they can find happiness in the arms of someone who just Might look better than them occasionally, lol. A lot of people don't get over themselves till they are way old. You don't see (some)old ladies not doing stuff or saying stuff just cause it might be embarrassing... life is too short to dwell on dumb stuff!

Later, We were discussing relationships again and the GG my CD friend is dating.

Me: I wanna say something which may come off pretty... 'guy-ish' and I'm not talkin’ nice guy... Here it goes. If you think she is your One, you should find a way to tell her you like to dress. If she's not...well...are you ready to drop her in a minute if you do find your 'one' who is fine with who you are?
I totally understand companionship. I didn't like being alone [when I was single].

Their response: ‘Well she’s somewhat one, but what is the one?... I'm 35 years old I don't know what to believe in that aspect. I would think the one would have come by now.

Me: So many of my CD/TG friends are with people who don't like a very real part of them...the emotional turmoil they go through because of it is really heartbreaking!
I had a friend show his girlfriend a picture of him en femme to come out to her. She thought he was really cute. They continued to date for a while, eventually they broke up, but not because of his dressing.

I wish I could talk to all the 'girlfriends that don't know' and ease them into the thought of it. CD guys (in my opinion) are just sooooo much easier to deal with than 'regular' guys. You Know what their major quirk is, that secret is gone! If you can deal with that, everything else will be a breeze to get through! And if you tell her & it doesn't work [or she thinks she can’t deal with it], well, you didn't invest TOO much time in a relationship that wouldn't work out in the end anyway

Why is a CD guys so much easier?

Me: More in touch with their feminine side...for example. [Some] Ladies sometimes (or all the times) wanna get their hair/nails etc done, right?

Yes they do.

Me: My ex hubby didn't understand that and to him it was kinda wasted money...his mom had to talk to him about that.

Oh yes we wouldn't mind getting ours done too.

Me: Exactly! No fight no fuss. That's something you can do together! Spa day, hello!

Later we went on to talk about how women may not like to participate in their significant other’s crossdressing. It’s like any other…we’ll say ‘hobby’ for this example. If I dislike something that someone likes to do, that doesn't mean I won't support the person who wants to do it. I may or may not join in on what they like to do. I may or may not be there every time they’re doing whatever it is they’re doing but I’m supportive. If someone I’m with likes table top gaming but I’m not into it. I wouldn’t put them down for it. I might try to play to see if maybe I could get to like it but if I just don’t like to do it myself…it’s just something I don’t like to do. They can continue with it. I might even make snacks to serve to the gamers or hang out and watch/listen to what’s going on.

I hope other people can be like that. If your significant other likes to dress in a way contrary to their gender type, would you be able to support them even if you’re not in to it? Can you help them with their hair and make-up so they can hang with their friends who also like to dress? Will you go to an event with them even though it’s not an event you want to go to all the time just to support them? It’s my hope that sometime soon this will no longer be considered a taboo…maybe even be considered a some-what normal occurrence.

That’s all I have to say for now. I hope you all have a GREAT DAY!!!

I will again be making an appearance at The Original GLBT Expo in NYC this weekend! I will be interviewed in the Video Lounge on Sunday. I’ll Have pictures and my experience from there to share with you soon!


Pirate Pebbs

*Bold Print (for the most part) is my CD friend’s words.
CD= Crossdresser, GG= Genetic Girl=Cis-Gendered Female=Female who was born female and identifies as female.

Monday, March 3, 2014

Our Frock Magazine 2014 Cover Girl Contest Entrants

Three Straight Crossdressers I know are competing in this contest. I would LOVE it if one of our lovelies would win! You can vote for all three of them by clicking their links and clicking vote.

One of them was interviewed last year in our 'Interview with a Straight Crossdresser'
Here is Gia!

Click Here to Vote for Gia

Next is the winner of our 500 Likes on Facebook Poster Contest.
Here's Tabbitha!

Click Here to Vote for Tabbitha

Last but not least is a more recent Facebook friend and aspiring Model.
Here's Paige!

Click Here to Vote for Paige

Good Luck to You All!!! I wish you ALL could win but if not all of you at least one of you!

~Pirate Pebbs

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Support Matters - Guest Post by Chardonnay Merlot

It was a Saturday night out on the dance floor. Me with a big smile on my face. You can never get too much of the feeling of a fun night out, surrounded by friends, all while working the perfect outfit.

The added bonus? For me, it was at the place where my journey truly began.

On that night two years before,-- IChardonnay Merlot, stepped out into the world for the first time.

I was alone, nervous, scared. I wasn't sure I was gonna go through with it.

My Heartbeat keeping time with the click-clack of heels on a parking lot.

Earlier that day, I was in a dressing room at a small shop maybe an hour away.

Looking in a mirror at me.

It was overload seeing myself in a way I'd always wanted to but never felt safe in doing.

And then I was told, "You really should consider going out tonight. There's nothing gained by hiding who you are."

I ended up going to a club that night. Nervous to the point of nausea.

"Don't be nervous honey, be out and be proud."

I met others like me that night.

A couple of weeks later, I was late to my first meeting with my support group and the group leader gave me the 'Don Rickles' treatment for being quite late, and then embraced me... as did the whole community.

The common denominator: Someone reached out.

I'm grateful for so many who have, mainly in a lot of small ways, from besties who call and Facebook me just to ask "how ya doin?" to those who have shared their experience and wisdom with me from the beginning.

Those first steps were tentative and nervous. Looking back I wonder how ever got the heart to take them.

It was because somebody took one second to tell me, "Live it. Learn it. Own it."

Because somebody took one second to show me how to use a foundation brush more efficiently.

Because someone spent an evening sharing their journey, their story, and was patient with me.

Because a group of people invited me in with open arms.

Because a group of people saw a shy scared person trying to find answers and they took me in.

Thanks to that, I've found a new peace, a new strength and have expanded my circle because of it. The journey feels a little less arduous and a lot less lonely, because from the beginning so many, in big ways and small, sent the most important message: "You are not alone."

 Support Matters

-Chardonnay Merlot